Tuesday, November 17, 2009

is luv necessary to get marry?

if dis question being ask to owang dulu2 sure dowang cakap ta payah cinte2 nih.sebab for sure zaman dulu most of the mariage is arranged by family.an an?even ade tu da kena cop mase dak tadika dak2 kecik lagi.
"eh besa2 nanti kan mak piah aku ingat na wat jadi menantu la anak ko tuh."
n cube kite bayangkan its happen nowadays.oh no.sumpa tana.!i prefer lagi knal n tgk muke dlu even ta bechenta pown.i ask my mom, do u luv dad when u been introduce at first.she said no.then how come u can get marry wit dad.uhh?mane boe ta becinta kalo na kawen,kena la sayang dlu.ohh.n now o knoe if my mom tade dad die kowt n vice versa.:)
n one of my fren tell me dat till her dad dead he never love her mom?telopong sementara mendengar cerita.
"jah,aku ta penah cinta kau,tapi aku sayang kau sebab jaga anak2 aku"
dis is true,name dan cara percakapan belainan,tapi maksud disampaikan same.:)n her dad bgtau mase die nga sakit tenat.sdey nye,kalo aku jadi ma die,mati same kowt.
well,stlh mendenga byk cerita dan blaja,kawen kerana cinta saje memang ta berguna.sumtymes we don need to lurv sumone if we hav to be marry or want to marry him/her.thre's a lot of tink lagi that we hav to tink aside from lurv..alaa lurv becintan cintun betaun pown,aku sayang kau kau sayang aku kalo tade tanggungjawab susa jugak.err aku sayang kau sebab tu aku bagi ko makan pasir..erm?sayang tu boe dipupuk,cinta boe disemai.yang penting hati ikhlas n tau ape tujuan kite na kawen nanye..kite n kawen sebab ape.nape na kawen ngan die.
sumtyme when we in lurv wit sumone,i na kawen ngan u,u sowang je laki dalam idup i,bla bla lagi which is i salu ckp jgk.ngehe,tapi kalo die bukan jodoh kite,kite kena trime gak kan?n its alwiz happen becenta ngan owang laen,kawen ngan owang laen.alwiz!no doubt.tapi tu la we as a human,if we want sumone we hav to fight for that,bukan tgu bulan jatuh ke riba jew.
n for me,niat tu kena ikhlas,hati mesti jujur,jangan menabur janji kalo ta dapat tunaikan,lelaki yang baek utk perempuan yang baek,if kite ta dapat yang elok,we hav to check ourself back,dun juz blame others coz we hav to realize kite ni ta sempurna,we never are.bukan sebab cinta jew tuk kawen.cinta tu perlu ade for some people tapi tayah la sampai lautan luas sanggup ku redah,gunung berapi sanggup ku daki,kalo ko sanggup,ko mati dlu kowt.:)dis is juz pemerhatian.masing2 punye pandangan laen an.pandangan saya pown ade ya
ng laen jugak.:)

4 comments:

Yusoff said...

Bagusla kalau dah belajar dan sedar sebelum kahwin! Tapi kan Bella, marriage is truly a gamble, u will never know your destiny. Sbb tu ramai walau dah belajar dari pengalaman kawan-kawan tiba2 dia terkena juga! Some says: love is not about finding a right person but is about how to create and work out and defend the relationship. Tapi... berdasarkan pengalaman saya, yes u must know your spouse before u buat satu keputusan paling penting dalam hidup ini.. so, for me love is also about finding a right person!

hansuke said...
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hansuke said...

hm..hot jugak topic ni. sampai tertarik tuk membaca nya walaupon agak panjang lebar..:)

in my opinion mmg susah kawin kalau tak kenal. atleast get to know each other first before hand. ni bukan zaman pak kadok. dulu2 bole la. this is marriage ur talking about. it's not exactly an easy thing to do. u tend to spend with that person for the rest of ur life until d very last breath.

i agree with yusoff above, love is also about finding a right person. but i truly believe that everyone has a chance to choose that specific person to love, to be with, to share their life with. maybe that's call love?..:)

u can love someone with all ur heart, but in the end it's all about finding that one person that God has chosen for u to be with. we may feel sad and down as things didn't workout with a bf/gf but that's fate. God has other plans for us. we only can make them but He arrange them all.

for me, even though it's hard sometimes to wait but thinking that Allah knows what He's doing, i rather wait for that one person and pray so hard to meet her one day, than just taking a gamble with anyone and ending up with a divorce.

wallahualam.

bella dela rosa said...

yup2.u both is totally correct.finding the right person.
even becinta lame2 tapi die ta ditakdirkan tuk kite na wat cane.hav to telan walaupun pahit.
semua nye da ditulis dlam hidup kite,it jus tyme arange evrythin.n all is jus wait.
lastly,we hav pray for it supaya dapat orang yang baek.