when you love someone...

Hello assalamualaikum.!

When you love someone, it doesnt mean that you can be together. Or you have to be together. Emm, this is not about me. I had a conversation with my friends regarding this matter and I just couldnt answer when a question of why we like someone else when we are now with special someone. What popup in my mind was only, why do you have to like someone else..why? I mean, you should not even be friend with someone else if you know you will fall in love with him.Stupid but relevant answer, still stupid, entahlah was the only answer I could think.

Is that wrong? I dont think to like someone is wrong. Even a married man can like someone, even a boss can like you, even a librarian who check your card everyday would like you, BUT its only will remain 'like' when the likeable person acting normal or just ignore it. BUT when the likeable person respond back, it maybe will become love, just maybe. Mom always remind me, dont give hope to anyone if you yourself pon din know whether he is the right person. Maybe your boyfriend now will be your husband, but maybe not, there is possibility there btw. How about you really like someone, and you just like him, you couldnt stop your heart from loving him (im sorry i used him, im a girl hehe, u can use her if u are a man), and you marry him, leaving your other half, is that wrong? Mom said if you love, you have to sacrifice.

So here is,when you like someone is wrong. See, you have someone, and you love him, you want to marry him, but suddenly one new man came, with just a ticket of friend, and you like him, you start considering, you start to think whether your other half right now is the right person, you start comparing, and maybe you start choosing, and the worst thing is you start thinking of leaving him. For me, its wrong, wrong when your other half is a good person and he did nothing bad to you, you leaveeee? and wrong when you just said that the new guy is much more better than the former, in term of what?? Why now only you realized that your other half is not fit all those things that you want, why only after you met the new guy then only you come out with a statement 'well from the day i know him, he cant do this and that but i just kept quite, he just not the right guy for me' period.

You cant force love, true. But you can control yourself right? You have been given the greatest nikmat in the world which is brain. Do you always follow what your heart says? I dont know, sometimes I believe in gerak hati, but sometimes ikut hati, mati. Ahhhhh. Question of heart is one of the hardest. You love someone, but you already have someone. The best solution is pray, if you are really serious with both guys/ girls and you just cant make a right decision, well heart also matter but you need to think of what are the consequences.:). And the first question you should ask yourself, which I always did to myself in anything, if that happen to me, am I sad, am I happy, will I enjoy myself afterwards thinking of what I've done so badly to someone else?, then only you make a decision. If you know your other half like someone, will you be sad? If your other half confused which one to choose, will you feel frustrated/mad/anger/cant take? If you say time will heal, time will cure, but what is the best medicine to cure the broken heart,time?, what is if the time will never exist, will you live happily in someone else tears?If you can, then that is good, you have to move on, yeah right.

My lecturer once said, if you want to marry someone, list down your criteria, use your brain to choose the right one, then only you love him/her with all your heart. Is love necessary to get marry? That is why in Islam, couple is forbidden, because all has been written by Allah who is our jodoh and we just have to wait and doa. If you confused, DOA, ask Allah what is the best for you.  If we follow what Allah had said, I dont think conflict of choosing issue will arise and of course we will never ever love the wrong person kan haha, if and only if we use our brain and heart to follow what Allah said. Emm all these, it might happen to me, I am human, we are human, I might do wrong, but I never left anyone for someone else kkkk, never but if i did, there must be a very strong reason that even myself couldnt stop it, kadang2 benda ni when it happens, you just dont realized that you are actually did wrong. Cause we always believe in 'follow what your heart says'. Saya sebenarnya jealous with people who get married at the young age, sebab I always dream to fall in love after married and still young,T__T, anddd dont you think its suwitt to get to know someone new and you have the halal title, bonus. 

If Allah can show the list of who is our partner, much easier eh, so that we just have to wait for the right time, nayy? Life is not that easy bella, not that easy. Oke kawan kawan, choose the right person, then love him/her. Sebab tak semestinya orang yang kita sayang ialah orang yang betul. Kan? Jangan tersilap langkah and jangan buat benda yang bukan2 sebelum kahwin sebab tak tentu lagi dia akan jadi pasangan kita. :)

Till here tadaaa